Having trouble making that first move on a girl you like? Or on any girl?
What is the secret – what does that dorky guy in the glasses have that you don’t?
Nothing, really.

He doesn’t look like he is nervous at all.  Probably because he isn’t.  He has confidence, and confidence is the one critical thing you need when it comes to asking girls out.

Here’s the big secret.  You can learn to have confidence.  How?  By pretending you do until you do.  Once you have some success getting girls to like you, you will lose the fear that you can’t.  And that is confidence, my friend.

As you are “faking it ’til you make it” (and that really does work), here are a few tips for you to help you out.

First, try not to feel like you are asking her out.  Asking a girl out is a stressful thing.  It is best if you try to think of it as just getting to know another person, which is what you are actually doing.  Your chance to ask her out will come along shortly.

Do not, I repeat – do not, try any cheesy pick up lines.  There is art to using a pick up line successfully, and you do not know it.  You will just sound like a dork, and once you realize it you will get nervous.  Nervous is pretty much the opposite of confident.

Just be yourself.  Who you are is who you are.  Even if you should somehow manage to pull off some fake pick up, what are you going to do then?  Unless your goal is to be a player, of course, but that is a totally different subject. You need to realize that letting her know who you are is the only real way to getiing a second or third date. If you fake it, she will be gone as soon as she figures it out.

Realize that she’s nervous too.  While women are certainly different than men (thank-you lord), they are not that different.  They are looking for someone to get to know, just like you.  And they have all the same fears and insecurities as you do.  Realizing this is a great aid in building confidence.

The last thing is to get her talking about herself, and then being genuinely interested in what she has to say.  Don’t pretend to be interested, don’t be spending the time she is talking trying to decide what witty thing you are going to say next.  If you listen to her, you will come up with something at the appropriate time.  not only does listening make her think that you are actually interested in her as a person, it is a lot easier to listen than to think of things to say to keep her interested.

Once you get the hang of just meeting women, rather than trying to get them to love you (however you mean that) you will find out that asking them out will be much easier.  And once you have some success asking girls out, you will have confidence.  You will know that each girl you ask out is not the only girl, and you will realize the truth in the statement “women are like busses, there will be another one along in a minute”.

Happy Dating.

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