RAPE IS USED AS A WEAPON BY THE ENEMY TO SUBDUE, VIOLATE AND HUMILIATE

In this world the mating and dating game is a whole new ball game.    To continue from my previous article… spiking of drinks and unrealistic expectations are all part of the game.   “you agreed so what did you expect?”   ” do you think there is such a thing as a free meal?   “did you think you could live here for nothing?”   “Of course I’m expecting something-diamonds don’t come cheap!”   “I thought you were coming onto me.”   “I got you the job so please take your clothes off and wait for me in the other room.” “You called me over so I automatically assumed you wanted it.”   “Your hubby’s away so I thought you wanted me that”s why you called me.”  ”I fixed your car and your blocked drain surely you must give me something, lady?”

Do these sound familiar?   Yes,  for guys to help out it’s all a macho act!   Even if they can’t do it!   If they don’t say yes,  then they are mocked by friends and their peer group.   They take bets as to whether they can get a certain woman into bed.   They even share the same women.   And then they compare notes on a fishing trip or around a campfire!   Now if a bet is on then a guy will do anything to win.   If the woman refuses because he was presumptuous and she had no intention,  some guys might back off.   But some guys can turn nasty and say you were sending them signals.   They could feel their manhood being threatened and become aggressive.   They may refuse to leave until they receive what they came for.   GET OUT AS FAST AS YOU CAN!   Or better still avoid these personality  types.  Whatever you do,  don’t tease.   It can anger a man very much and could cost you your life.   Always mean what you say ans say what you mean.

They could make life unbearable for you.    Stalk you.   Harass you.   Even go so far as to rape you.   Now you got probelms.   Our worlwide law is such that it protects the perpetrator more than the victim.   Innocent until proven guilty.   Many victims are “raped”  by the system all over again.    Trauma counselling and the whole rigour of the examination and barrage of questions is what you going to be exposed to.   While the perpetrator has his file disappear for a fee.   Never goes to trial and never sees the inside of a cell.   Never has to say sorry and roams the street for the next victim.   Free to have a meal at McDonalds etc.   In your case you too frightened to trust, go out or love again.    You feel violated and abused like no man wants you.   Years before you could make a breakthrough.

But in cases like this you could either roll over and play dead or you could fight back.   Get your life back and make sure these cowards go to jail where believe it or not they will be raped.

Best advice is don’t live alone.   Have as many friends as possible.   Avoid flirtatious behaviour.  Try not to come across as provocative, alluring, seductive and  available in public.   Keep such behaviour as part of your private life.   You don’t know who is watching and what elements you are bound to attract.      Remember,  a stranger is not a friend-he could be your worst nightmare.   Remember,  for all your activities there is safety in numbers.

Thank you.

p.s. it is better to refuse a gift from a stranger or help whatever your need as you dont know if they have ulterior motives. In war rape is used as a weapon to violate, humiliate and subdue the enemy. It was used during apartheid and by Muammar Gaddaffi’s forces against his own people.