Why do people fall in love? How do they fall in love? You might have asked these questions several times by haven’t got the most satisfying answers.  Basically, people fall in love because they have feelings.  According to marriage counseling, to fully understand why and how individuals fall in love, you have to know the different factors of a romantic relationship (in Danish we call those parforhold problemer).

Needs versus Love

Many people fall in love to satisfy their needs.  Everyone has his own needs for intimacy, sexual desires, a family and other more shallow needs like a sense of recognition or a status symbol. Marriage counseling would often remind that it is very important that one recognizes the difference between love and need.  You may be claiming that you love somebody but in reality, you may only need him.

Compatibility

Compatibility in a relationship refers to the ability to deal and live together without disputes. Couples who connect with each other in many aspects are known to be compatible and can sustain a longer relationship as claimed in most marriage counseling.  In most cases, couples who are compatible have common needs and preferences, similar outlook in life, same background and goal in life, age and education.

Sexual Desires

Sex can actually strengthen any romantic relationship.  It essentially brings out the best in you such as beauty and admiration.  At the same time, it can also work to bring out the worst attitudes in you such as selfishness and possessiveness.  In any case, sex should be regarded as something vital and necessary because it is a major factor that builds a stronger relationship.

Exclusivity

When you enter in a relationship, you should be committed with your partner. Exclusivity is a major component of a successful relationship. More often, it’s your own prerogative that suggests you observe it because you feel that it is morally good in your relationship.

Reflection

Your partner whom you connect with is actually a reflection of who you are, whom you ought to have and what you can endure.  If your husband tends to criticize you more often, it is probably because you lack self esteem. The ability to endure an unfavorable relationship solely depends upon your acceptance of that significant part of your personality.

Trust and Respect For your Partner

A romantic relationship may not go a long way if couples do not trust and respect each other. According to marriage counseling, if couples show trust and respect to their partners they are unlikely to have problems in their relationship.

Children and your Relationship

In most cases, a romantic relationship is drastically changed once the couples begin to have children.  Couples start to divert their attention to their kids – how to rear them, how to create structure and stability for their family.  Children can intensify and strengthen the relationship of the parents and at the same time they can also ruin the marriage. If couples are used to a spontaneous lifestyle, then the arrival of children may cause them several problems because they will need to outgrow these lifestyle.